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If you find yourself attracted to someone else, what is the very first
thing that comes to your mind? What is the very feature that you find
alluring in this other person? How can you identify very specifically
what is it about this person that is magnetizing you.
Being attracted to a third party is an intrusion on your intimacy with
your partner, but why not using this element as a guide or tool to
pinpoint the changes that need to be made within yourself, your partner
and your relationship.
Physical Attraction
What makes a dark skin, brown skin, milky white skin, blonde, brunette
or redhead more or less desirable to you? Does it suggest the comfort
of being more at home with the familiar or perhaps the opposite the
excitement of the unknown?
How can skin or hair color be more significant? What about her hazel or
violet eyes and that high cheekbones? Does being with someone of a
different skin, hair or eye color, served as a declaration of freedom
and breaking away from traditions and breaking loose from expectation,
perhaps?
The answer lies in being able to identify specifically the quality you
are attracted to and find a way to re-activate it in your partner the
very element that got you attracted to your partner when you first met,
cherish the way she looks, the epitome of your desirability.
Sexual Attraction
What does sex actually stands for? It can stands for anything pleasure,
excitement, fun, desire, physical relief, self-esteem, intimacy,
freedom, a sense of masculinity and a host of other things. Sex in our
culture is very often used to presumably, get you anything you want.
If you do start longing to have sex with someone else, look deeply
within yourself to see what you really want. Does that hot babe with
that sexy body really turns you on? No, it is not her body, it is you.
You can transform your desire into a powerful force that enhances
intimacy instead of destroying it. Your partner can be as hot as any
babe of your dream. You can get that same excitement with your partner.
Touch your mate with loving enthusiasm and admiration for the special
person they are. Touch them with your emotions. Yes, routine sex can be
boring and sometimes, destructive.
When involved in a loving exchange, there is no such thing as
perversion. Each variant of sex act can be a beautiful expression of
shared feelings giving, taking, feeding, nursing, playing, expressing
masculinity strength and tenderness. What you do sexually is another
expression of how many ways can I tell you I love you?
Emotional Attraction
Is the person to whom you are attracted to warm, romantic, caring and
supportive, playful, lively, vivacious or maybe, a dreamer? If any of
these or other emotional facets of your personality have not been
developed or are not fulfilled in some way by your partner, obtaining
them can become a driving force in your life.
When someone comes along who appears to have the necessary attributes
to fill that void, you become emotionally attracted to them. This can
extend into physical attraction that becomes too strong to resist.
What to do with a partner who does not share emotions? You cannot be
intimate with someone who does not share your feelings or, even worse,
does not seem to have feelings. Start by telling your partner that you
love them, and each time they share a feeling there is more of them to
love.
Express your loving appreciation with tenderness and caring. Add
passion, and keep the enthusiasm in your ardor fresh. Be extravagant in
your praise and your expression of love.
Your emotional connection allows you to share each other s feelings.
The more you are able to share and experience each other s feelings,
the trust for each other expands. Sharing your emotions will put you in
a position to have a much fuller life.
Spiritual Attraction
Do you feel uncomfortable in your relationship with someone of a
different religion and background and fall for a person of your own
faith who makes you feel more at home. The reverse can also be true.
Sharing your growing curiosity and excitement about spirituality a
force that transcends individual boundaries promotes an exciting
feeling of intimacy that can be as intense and rewarding as the best
sexual intimacy. What is more, that the feeling can last much longer.
If you are missing this is your relationship, you may find yourself
looking for it elsewhere.
Here are some guidelines that have heavenly pay-offs. Think of these
guidelines as statements of intent that are pleasurable to carry out as
expressions of caring.
When you think of your partner, surround each thought with joyful appreciation for the miracle of their presence on earth.
Each time you see your partner is an opportunity to silently experience
the wonder that, out of millions of people in the world, she has chosen
you for her devotion.
Let the energy of caring and love course through your body. Use these
sensual feelings to enhance love and turn love into sexy soul food.
Celebrate your partner s efforts and achievement with enthusiasm. Sharing enthusiasm with other is the nirvana of love.
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